As mentioned in the last chapter, we’re all a bit crazy
carrying around emotional stuff that results from our own conditioning. It is a fact of human life that we will
suffer a bit along the way as we make our journey through life. Coal doesn’t become a diamond without
pressure right? We are no different
metaphorically speaking. With enduring
pressure our being becomes faceted by our experiences. We take on wounds like a boat with a hole in
it will take on water. We may not
necessarily be aware of the wounds that we carry but we become painfully aware
the moment a human interaction triggers us into emotion of some kind.
If you are triggered in the negative such as anger, rage,
frustration, sadness or depression, it is likely that you are reacting from a
wounded place. Again, this is
normal. It is part of being human that
we go through life scrapping our knees from time to time or even suffering a
broken heart from something seemingly mundane or obviously unmistakable. It’s okay to be wounded, it’s okay to have
emotion and it’s okay to feel what we feel.
You don’t need anyone’s permission to feel what you feel, you need not
apologize for how you feel and you need never feel guilty or ashamed by your
feelings.
We are in many ways very complex, more complex than this
little pocket book intends to cover but I couldn’t write this without touching
on this very sensitive subject. It is
from our wounds that we all react, not just you but the guy who just upset you
or the gal who just hurt your feelings or the situation culminating from a
series of events or even a single one that made you mad. Realize that our wounds want to be healed and
that is why we are triggered. When we
are triggered, it feels awful but I want to point out something very important
to you. I intentionally desire to change
your perspective on pain. When you are
in a state of pain, you are sending a message to yourself that something is not
right.
Now, know that pain will often appear to arise from
interactions in the outside world. The
truth is that the pain arises from within you as a reaction resulting from your
own conditioning. What is painful to you
may be nothing to someone else and that makes neither of you bad or wrong. It just means you have different wounds and
experiences. So, when you find yourself
in a state of a triggered response to some kind of human stimulus realize that
you are recognizing a wound even if you cannot consciously recognize its true
source. That true source could be so
deeply buried that it could take years with therapy for you to find it or it
could take minutes in reflection. It all
depends on you, what you want and how you go about seeking true understanding.
Everyone reacts to wounding. Why do you think that seemingly unfeeling
person has just said something completely insulting and absolutely
condescending to you that hurt? There are
two things going on here – two wounds meeting.
The insulter and insulted are on the same continuum of human experience
but just in different places. Dr. David
Hawkins wrote and spoke about this concept and I highly recommend you look into
his work if you would like to better understand and work through these types of
issues. My little pocket book was
intended to bring quick bits and bytes of information to remind you of things
you may have forgotten but will eventually remember. When the right moment arises and you have
achieved that which you sought to achieve, the wounds will surface for
understanding and healing and it will primarily be through human interactions
as noted in the last chapter.
When you encounter a wound or someone unthinkingly or
intentionally pokes at your wounds, realize that you have precious seconds to
detach, step back and seek understanding instead of involuntarily
reacting. When you feel that core-level
need to react, it is a wound calling to you for attention. There is something within you that wishes to
rise to the level of your consciousness for understanding and with
understanding, freeing you through healing.
Talk about understanding forgiveness, the biggest act of
forgiveness we face is learning to truly forgive ourselves. We’ll get to that very shortly. My intent with this chapter is to help you
understand what is happening to you when you are feeling reactive, angry, sad,
rejected, deflected, etc. It is just a
wound trying to get your attention and often the wounds of other people trigger
our own. It’s okay, truly. It is what
you do next that matters most and will either promote or prevent you from
healing and growing. Forgiveness is a stepping-stone
truly but you have to understand all the things that seemingly cause the need
for forgiveness. In time, when you are
open, you’ll come to know forgiveness is unnecessary because every
transgression is an illusory slap in the heart for the sole purpose of bringing
you the truth.
Your spirit remains intact no matter what you face. Your soul may cling to memories of pain and
that is okay. You may even react
unconsciously due to your soul’s contents and that’s okay but you can learn to
transcend these things if and when you become ready to choose to do so. And even then, it’s not a cakewalk. It takes time and effort to achieve healing
through understanding and forgiveness.
After these things come the deepening of understanding and then the
dissolving of the illusions that cause the perception of the transgressions to
begin with.
I’d like to again summarize what we’ve covered here for
greater understanding:
- We all carry wounds that are sometimes unconsciously held.
- These wounds cause us to react if something gets too close to poking or brushing a wound.
- The spirit of us truly desires healing and wholeness and so will allow the wound to become your teacher in a moment.
- The feelings that stem from a wound are messages to you from you that something within you needs your attention.
- Through self-reflection we can begin to understand not only our wounds but also the wounds of others.
- When we identify our wounds it becomes easier to see when others are reacting from theirs as well.
- We have mere seconds between reacting from a wound and choosing to seek the understanding that is trying to get our attention.
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